That is what piercers refer to as the Cat's Ass look.

It CAN be avoided...it just takes a LOT of work. It used to happen a lot more often than it does now, becuase mod techniques and technology is evolving a lot faster now than it used to. Remember when we all had our ears pierced by guns?

Some people's bodies just aren't made for mods...stretching especially. If you start small and have problems, best not to keep going.